(Part 1 tells the background of a quilt inscribed with many names, and how I started my search for the details of its history. Part 2 details some of the interesting family stories. Part 3 tells a long story about three intertwined families.)
In general, I'm noticing that many households included more than our typical nuclear families. It becomes clear pretty quickly that most families took in extended family members when the need arose, single or widowed aunts and uncles and parents, for example. Many households took in boarders, and many hired servants, often recently arrived from Ireland, especially during the early childbearing years. Hardly anyone lived alone.